I have a lot of memories of this house. My older brother and sister still lived at home before running off to college and having babies. I sometimes miss these moments when we were still a family. I remember a big cherry blossom tree in the front yard and would stare out the window for hours when it would "rain" pink petals. There was even a time when the brother brought his motorcycle in the living room for a photo shoot prop involving suggestively clothed ladies. He bribed me with cereal to never tell our mother. I kept that secret well into adulthood! My brother met his future wife while we lived there (now married 19 years). We also found out my sister was pregnant with her first child when we lived there (he is now 22!). Crazy how fast time goes by.
Building process 1983 |
2013 |
After we drove around forever and stopped for lunch, we headed to the cemetery. I have been to the cemetery more times than I can count. Every time I drive through the entrance, tears form in my eyes. Something weird happened this time though. I didn't cry. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I have been visiting my father at the cemetery for more than half of my life and I am only twenty nine. It almost seems normal for me to place flowers on his tombstone and talk to him like he is sitting there with me. My father lives at the cemetery and that is where I go to visit with him. As awful as that may be, it seems normal after all of these years. Instead of feeling sorrow, I felt happy to be able to see his tombstone with his picture and know that he was looking down on me in that moment. It never gets better, but eventually it gets a little easier to live with. It only took me eighteen long years to get to this point.
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