Grieving Mom

The other night while watching Couples Therapy, (Don't judge me, I love my reality TV shows) I had a moment of clarity.  The therapist had said the following statement to one of the celebrities..."You need to grieve the loss of your mom that you wished that she was because she's never going to be that mom.". Wow. That hit a little close to home. She was right! I need to grieve the loss of the mom I wish my mom would be. I now realize that she does not have the capability to do so. It's not right, and it's not fair, but it's reality. Clarity! I think I have finally found it.